Adult Season: Your Stories
Here on the blog, we've been overwhelmed by the amazing stories that you've shared about becoming an adult. Many of you have gone through massively life-changing events, such as the death of a parent, family break-ups and living in care. What comes across the most is that, despite the difficulties that have forced you to grow up, so many of you are determined to be strong and to use your experiences to be positive and responsible adults. I've chosen extracts from a small selection of your stories but you can read them in full on the What is an Adult? blog post.
Mary wrote: By letting go of a destructive, painful relationship, I have now allowed myself the space to start becoming the person who I want to be. This is what I think that being an adult is all about - accepting who you are, taking responsibility for your actions and emotions and not making them someone else's problem.
AshleiighOx wrote: Being grown up is all I have ever known, I suppose. I was put into care at a young age because my mum and dad are both heavy heroin abusers...but things are looking up, I have a flat with a friend in Dumfries and I work for my old care home as an admin/receptionist. I love it. I hope one day to move on to become a care home worker, to help other young girls and boys that were in my position. Being grown up isn't easy... I am proud of myself; I came from nothing and look where I am now.
AaronsMummy wrote: I became an adult all 3:11am on the 15th of August 2003 then my gorgeous son was born and I realised that this little person would depend on me for the rest of his life xx
zion-z wrote: Even when we become adults GROWING UP continues forever x
Tim wrote: When I was 11 my dad died from cancer, and it had a really bad effect on me and my family. I started doing drugs, but within a few months I realised that it was making me a bad person. I decided that my mum and my family would be better off if I stopped thinking of myself and helped them, I stopped doing the drugs and started helping my mum as much as I could. Since all of that happened, I feel like I have more people's respect and trust. I feel that to be an adult, it doesn't matter how old you are but how you treat others, what your attitude is like and whether you take responsibility for your actions.
Jess wrote: I'm seventeen now. I've been through depression and being suicidal, coped with the knowledge that I have the same disease that eventually killed my dad, survived six years of unpopularity in boarding school and coached my mother and three of my best friends through manic depression.
I'm still here.
I'm almost happy, most of the time.
I'm an adult.
milli wrote: I praise ANYONE for which EVER reason you have to be the adult within your family or suddenly grow up and take the world on your shoulders almost overnight. For myself, and the hundreds of people who have recently or in their lifetime been in the position of becoming an adult before your time, give yourself a pat on the back because you really are great :)
Couldn't have put it better myself. Thank you so much to everyone who has taken the time to post your stories on the blog. We love hearing about the lives of our viewers and the issues that affect you. If you'd like to share your own experiences, you can add your story now.
Dana Stevens is Content Producer for BBC Three online.
- Read the full stories
- Greg James, Liz McClarnon and Jenny Frost share their stories about adulthood
- Kirsten O'Brien, Reggie Yates and Stacey Dooley tell their stories
- Glamour model Alicia Douvall talks about becoming an adult
- Find out more about the Adult Season
- More information about Small Teen, Big World
- BBC Advice website