Joe Busby is 14 and an extraordinary young man.

He's had to cope with the pain of his parents' divorce, and wants to help other youngsters cope too.

Is it really my fault? ‘No!’ is what you should be thinking, when the inevitable happens and your parents split up.

This positive thinking is going to be one of the things that is going to get you through this situation.

My name’s Joe and I’m 14 years old, my parents split up when I was 5 years old. You might think that this is a load of nonsense and I don’t know what I’m going on about, but I do.

I empathise with you, it happened to me and I’ve got through it, it took me a long time to go. I thought it was my fault to begin with but it wasn’t and it’s not your fault either.

It’s natural to think it is but don’t, as it will only make you feel worse. You’ve got to remember that they’re still your parents, they still love you and you can still talk to them.

When I finally spoke to my parents about it, it felt like a huge weight was lifted. I know, ‘How do I speak to them when it’s only going to make them feel sad and me uncomfortable?’

Ria Purfield-Clark is Mentoring Agency Manager at Birmingham's Big Brother and Sisters organisation.

Yes, its going to make you feel a bit uncomfortable, but no it’s not going to make them feel sad, in fact they would probably be more than happy to explain it to you.

When you’re dealing with your parents please remember they have feelings too and are going through a bad time aswell.

Exploiting them and playing them off against each other may seem tempting but it will only make things worse.

I was 5 when they split up, I didn’t know what to do and I couldn’t talk to anyone, I know that this sounds cheesy, but keep reading, this is the good part.

I discovered that your friends can help you and may I say a big thank you to Emily who has recently helped me with a very important matter (enough said) and remember you’re not alone and you’re not the only one going through this situation, take a look around your class.

How many are just like you? If you think that thing are getting really bad you can get in touch with the NSPCC, Childline & Big Brothers and Sisters. (see links on the left)

If you feel like you can’t get anyone to talk to then I’m more than happy to help. You can contact me via jane.green@bbc.co.uk

Another thing to remember is not to keep things bottled up, as this will keep building up until little annoyances that will usually pass you by will bring tears of rage and you will snap at the people who are trying to help you.

You need to get things into perspective. The message im trying to get across is that you need to TALK, TALK and more TALK. Please think about what I have said and I hope it's put some of your doubts and fears at rest.