jen
I work in job where i'm expected to work really long hours and then to socialise with work people too. This often drives me mad as there are other things i'd rather do, but i don't feel like i have the choice...

Tony
I work as a bar manager,im there during the day and all nite to the early hours, maybe 4/5am at weekends,if i dnt show my face and be there i dont feel im being commited enough to my work,a bar manager should be at the customers beck and call is the way things are,ask any pub manager!

Cookie-OX1
I think it is just another sign of the times we are living, overworked and underpaid. If you take your work over your family or personal life then you need to take a long hard look at what is going on around you, no one wants to turn around at 60 and say 'what happened to my life' oh i remember i was working for someone elses happiness. If you are single them ok, but if you are in a relationship or have a family then your priorities change and anyone who does not realise that is just being selfish and does not deserve it. and to say that they are doing it to better the situation is just wrong, money does not buy happiness. we i have got it good because I met my in the office and now we live together!

Leon
Is there anywhere I can get more info on this? I had to get checked for serious depression recently due to overworking?

kelly marie sanders, liverpool
i think if you want to suceed you have to consider your career and this is sometimes at the expense of your relationships but it is hard to balance as people who work for smaller companies are more likely to be expected to flog your guts with little reward because the opportunies are not there. It's a bit of a visicious circle and i think bosses expect emplyees to do alot of stuff they wouldn't be prepared to pitch in with when the chips are down

Lebert, Brighton
When people get used to a certain lifestyle, they will put work before their relationship. I think people assume putting more money on the table will bring happiness to a relationship. Have to balance work and your private life. Then again, some people perhaps use the working late excuse to get some "me" time and socialise with their work colleagues instead of considering their relationship.

Keisha Jones
Hey there!! Do I put my job before my partner ??? Hell to the no!!! I'm sorry but my partner and family come before my job, at the end of the day my loved ones will always be there, as for jobs they come and go.... But I guess we all have different priorities.

Sarah Williams
I work 9 hours a day on a good day but I drive for at least 5 hours a day on top of that so I very rarely spend much time at home. My job also means that I have to work away a lot which means that I have very few hours at home. When you work away with colleagues it makes affairs even easier and more tempting.

Marius
i work in a company and its a 24/7 job, but I beleive there is always time for everything as long as people are willing to make an effort, but if you put yourself in a routine then get yourself out of it because thats the problem

Ru
IF your partner is constantly at work try consoling yourself with the following idea.... They're not just looking at what they want for the next few weeks, they're looking more long term commitment, They've already chosen to be with you and by putting in the groundwork on their career you will be able to look foreward to a happier, more financially stable future together. Be patient, and dont be afraid to talk about YOUR problem with their work pattern....

mya
my mans obsessed with his job and becuase he loves his job, i do come second or even third on his list of priortires! He might as well get married to work..