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Forced marriage
What are your options if you think it will happen to you?
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"This is a human rights issue. Move away from pc." 
Jasvinder ran away from home to escape a forced marriage. Her sister committed suicide by setting herself on fire because she was made to marry a relative from Pakistan.

Every year dozens of girls go missing from school, because parents take them abroad to get married against their will.

So should forced marriage be a criminal offence? And what should you do if you fear it's going to happen to you or a friend of yours?
Has anyone you know been forced into a marriage? Tell us your stories.
 
Thank you for your comments. This debate is now closed. A selection of your emails is published below.

Helen
I have several friends who have had or who will have an arranged marriage. They always stress this is not the same as a forced marriage. The parents introduce them to guys whom they think will be a suitable husband. I.e. they are from a good family, have a good job and education, the families know each other well. The girls don't have to marry the guy the parent picks but many of them do as the parent often knows how to pick a guy the girl will like. This should not be made illegal. What should be illegal is parents sending their children abroad and forcing them to marry strangers and disowning or threatening to kill them if they refuse.

Meera Shah
Being forced into marrying someone that you may not know/like is wrong, plain and simple. On the other hand being introduced to someone suitable is perhaps not such a bad idea. Divorce rates in the UK are nearing 50%. Can we really still say that we know better?

shonny
the mothers that bring their children to pakistan to get married should be sent to jail. We are in modern times and they should get that type of thing out of their heads.

ja-nel hoque
Forced marriages relate to honour killing, girls run away from family to be with the one they luv. they should make forced marriages illegal.

Andy
What about the boys? We are always hearing about girls being forced into marrage but what of the med they are marrying - are they always happy with an arranged marrage? Do they ever run away?

fayza nasser
i think it should be illegal to have forced marriages. but young girls would not tell anyone about what their parents are doing to them

Dionne
This is really to do with cultural issues. people claim that Britain is a multi-cultural society but to what extent are we multi-cultural? Where do we draw the line about what is acceptable and what isn't? The question is if more people were made aware of their human rights would there be as many forced marriages?

Hasina Shapi
When people hear the word 'Forced Marriage', The first thing they think of is Arabic people, or Muslim people. It is not only Muslim girls that get forced into marriage, and i take this as a type of racism. And i agree with Fatimah, it clearly states in the Holy Qu'ran that a Muslim girl can marry any Muslim man she wants.

Rhiannon Black
Forced marriages should be made illegal. It is quite clearly a breech of Human Rights. Even at that though, it probably will still go on, illegally - so just banning it won't solve this issue completely. A lot of young women will still be coerced into marrying men by their parents, and will comply, perhaps, for religious reasons, for fear of having their parents disown them.

They would also have to add something to Children's Rights, to leave no legal loopholes that would allow parents to have the last word in issues involving their children. Or to let parents, as official guardians, send their children who are too young to marry in this country off to another country where they CAN get married.

Fatimah Johnson
Thanks for the discussion, but I must say forced marriage is a cultural practice and not an Islamic practice. No Muslim girl can be forced to marry against her will. This is stated several times in the Holy Quran and in the Hadiths. So a good Muslim family would not allow this to happen. It is very sad to hear some of the accounts given on this documentary. Ignorance is abound and people need to really read and try to find the truth and understanding on all sides.


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