Rhonda
I have been abused my whole life by my mother, and my so-called boyfriend. When we were together, he would bite me and mental control me. He would make me out to be a monster and blame me for everything. He still tries to be with me but I dont have nothing to do with him and that makes him angrier at me so he sits on this pity pot and makes me out to be the mean one. He constantly lies and tries to make people and my family mad at me.

Chris
2 in 10 males and 3 in 10 women? that is not right, as there are more men than women being victims of dv now. in 1996 the home office results on crime survey stats showed 4.2% in both genders victims of dv. There are more male victims than women today. I have seen reports stating that too. This report does show alot of useful-ness on the issue but theres no way that theres more female victims now

Ann ominus
I think any type of violence is un acceptable wether it be aimed at men woman or children. A heavy penalty should be put in place for offenders.

Roy Sheppard
Congratulations for addressing this issue. I am one of the authors (with Mary T Cleary of the men's support organisation Amen.ie in Ireland) of a book that deals with this controversial subject that most of the media haven't had the courage to even mention. We deliberately gave it the confrontational title "That *****".
Sadly, too many women's aid groups have misled the public for the past 30 years into believing that only men are violent. Our research has found that up to 45% of all domestic violence victims are men. Interestingly, within lesbian relationships there are similar incidences of domestic violence as in heterosexual relationships.
We have also been surprised to discover that so many loving mothers have bought our book for their son's who they know are in bad relationships but cannnot bring themselves to talk about it because they are so embarrassed. What we have noticed time and time again is that the men most likely to be abused are kind, sensitive and gentle men. Thank you again for broadcasting this programme.

Paula
what support is out there to help the women who need help with anger management?

Andrew
I have recently launched a support service for male victims of domestic violence in Cornwall. I think we are just seeing the tip of the iceberg. The percentage quoted is those cases reported, the reality is most go un reported.

David H
There are two reasons why domestic abuse of men is under-reported, apart from men being reluctant. Men see that government refuses to help men and deny the up-to-date figures. The Welsh Assembly, over the last three years, gave over 13 million pounds to women's charities and less than a quarter of a million to men's. Also, they are launching an action plan to tackle violence AGAINST WOMEN, thus ignoring the plight of men.There are 500 refuges for women in the UK and only 10 for men. This means that a minimum of 200 refuges for men are needed NOW.

Ana
Yep men should be getting help. And so should the women who are committing the abuse. Two of my friends were treated really badly- one by a girlfriend, and one by a wife. It turned out both ladies had had something really bad happened to them when they were kids. That gave them a thing called 'Emotional Regulation Disorder' which was successfully treated. They way they acted had nothing to do with my mates.

Jess
I dont think men should be embarrassed about talking to somwone if they are being abused domestically. Its not like they can hit a woman back to defend themselves or they would be accused of domestic abuse themselves, so its nothing to be ashamed of that they are being beaten down by a woman. Domestic abuse is disgusting whether it is directed at the man or the woman - it shows a total lack of respect for ur partner and I thik there should be more help available. I know there is some help but having suffered personally with a violent partner I don't think there is enough help to make people feel safe enough to be strong and leave their abusive partners.